America’s couple has a problem with no solution. Randall and Beth’s marriage is on the rocks and after last night, it’s going to get worse before it gets better.
This Is Us Season 3, Episode 17 Recap: “R&B”
– This Is Marriage.
– It’s clear that Randall and Beth are not in a good place. This season of This Is US has been pretty rocky from the start and many will cite Randall’s political campaign as the beginning of their downfall. However, I’m going to go back even farther than that. It pains me to say this because I love this character so much, but the arrival of William was the beginning of the downfall for Randall and Beth. Since that moment, Randall has been searching for ways to live up to the legacies of William and Jack while Beth is left to support him in all his endeavors despite the negative impact it may have on her own life.
– The episodes use flashbacks at important moments in the story of Randall and Beth to illustrate their relationship. A clear pattern develops in each argument. Randall fully dives into a situation while Beth questions his motives. Randall uses his likable personality and insane charm to win Beth over as she “bends the knee” to every argument in order to find a solution. I’m not saying that this is a bad thing and both Randall and Beth make great points in each situation. What I am saying is that having the same result after every argument is not a healthy way to live.
– On their mini golf date with Rebecca, Beth reveals that she does not want to marry Randall right now because she is afraid she will get consumed in his life without having a separate life of her own. Once again, there is no problem with getting consumed in certain issues in your spouse’s life. However, it becomes a problem when one person can’t fall back on a separate issue in their own life that they can handle alone.
– Fight after fight, the pattern of Beth bending her knee continues until it reaches its boiling point in the present day. Beth finally wants to do something for herself instead of for Randall and to be honest, Randall can’t handle that. Their relationship works best when Beth makes her dreams the same as Randall and she supports him along the way. I feel for Beth. It must have been hard to take on all of Randall’s ordeals without having time for herself. Randall begins to realize that, but it’s clearly too late. I don’t want this to be a pity party for Beth though. Randall also makes good points in this argument. Randall allows Beth to make her own decisions like the grocery store fight. Randall said Beth can go spend the night by herself, but Beth chooses to come home with Randall. Randall may force his dreams onto Beth, but Beth chooses to make those dreams her own dreams as well. Both parties are right and wrong.
– About halfway through the episode, I tweeted this out.
Obviously, the episode was not going to have a happy ending. The fight ends with two low blows. Randall sarcastically apologizes to Beth for following her dreams 20 years later, and Beth says she couldn’t find time to follow her calling between Randall’s anxiety attacks. Yikes. Randall leaves for his office and the duo spends the night sepearte from each other.
– Do I think Randall and Beth will get divorced? No. However, I do see temporary separation in their future.
– Season finale next week!